So this brings us to Section 3 of the Course.
Welcome to the section through the values that followed.
I'm going to be doing my very best to tackle head on quite a delicate subject because beliefs are the
foundation that people can base their lives upon.
Our beliefs have the capacity to build us up as human beings or Tyrus down.
No these beliefs they are what a see foundations they're more like invisible foundations because most
people that you're going to deal with as a life coach are completely unaware of the beliefs that they
have and they're completely unaware of how it is that they've come to believe the things that they do
no good and bad.
Many many years ago there was an old psychologist on the plane which the founding father of psychology
a guy called Sigmund Freud and he brought about this iceberg theory.
He introduced this theory to the world.
He suggested that you know our bodies the surface you know people act and conduct themselves in certain
ways and present this facade to the world generally what's going on beneath the surface can be this
huge mass of unruly ruggedness sharpness anger rage fear anxiety go shame others all the beliefs that
we have that we used to oh this our pin Progress or celso life or we used to beat ourselves up constantly.
The Forum the reasons why we don't do the things that we fundamentally want to do.
What I'm saying here is that beliefs will always come at the greers threats could come your way when
it comes to helping people break through and progress in life because of the beliefs that we have in
the beliefs that we've developed.
Are their best conclusions that we've been able to come up with about who it is we are how the world
goes and these beliefs are based upon so many different factors.
Our beliefs are based upon our partially determined by the quality of the peer and talk of bringing
the hard.
For example s someone that you go on to work with hasn't had a particularly healthy perenna upbringing.
Your dad was completely unavailable mom was perhaps abusive or something like birds.
And the beliefs that a child can go on to tell self are you know I'm not good enough mommy does love
me.
Daddy's angry I mean he's not interested in me which can therefore only mean that who I am is in good
enough.
What I'm seeing here is that most of the beliefs that we build and base our life so on are limited by
nature because what about this later spend a few minutes discussing here right at the start the section
is the difference between these five phenomena that you're going to be faced with every single day for
the rest of your life.
In fact these very funny phenomena you are faced with and have been faced with every day throughout
your life up until now.
It's important to understand that most people are educated and self awareness.
Whilst we go to school we go to college and higher education to learn skills and to grow in information
in simitian isn't understanding and this is primarily what I'm looking to help you develop through this
course not just grew in information which is why many academics will have already turned me off by No.
Check out the negative reviews of the course they're the ones who are interested in understanding.
They just want information head knowledge.
But what were talking about here is understanding the human psyche from the inside out because it's
only if you reach this place where you're able to do so that you're going to be able to discern Well
if people wisely and help them break through the limiting beliefs that unbeknown to them are actually
holding them back in life.
And that was true for them is true for you.
True for me you see many people will say that they believe certain things.
For example I could go completely controversial here on your show are Shanter course a shell.
Let's talk about God right.
No I said that word and that really controversial when you in the last section where I swore a few times
and he said God twice at the very very end.
Why do you think it on this.
Because God is perhaps one of the most controversial subjects in the world today.
Some people believe in God.
Some people don't believe in God.
And some people will define themselves by the belief that they have in God.
Those that believe in God will call themselves perhaps Christians or the maberly call themselves Muslims
or are Catholics are prossed and are or Hindis or Hindus or whatever.
Others who don't believe in this god that doesn't exist will call themselves atheists.
So they firmly bodanis this their life upon their belief that they don't have a god that doesn't exist.
They were making a mockery of anyone here.
What I'm saying is that beliefs are the best conclusions that we that we that we have come to in life.
Some beliefs of us have some beliefs don't some things that people claim to believe are absolutely useless
and are actually nothing more than mere opinions or just thoughts.
Our beliefs aren't well considered.
For all intents and purposes our beliefs are what we fundamentally know as truth.
But the problem with Bleacher's they can't always be truth.
You see for example I could believe that the world is going to end in six months from now.
No every couple of years the world has presented these days with some sort of online Facebook or Internet
phenomenon where the latest cold touch the latest extreme group say that's due to some sort of prophecy
going back so many years by some some You'll be or some guru who lived the mountain he said there were
these two stars cross each of the path and a certain point in space and time.
Then that's an indication that the world's going to end in six months.
No this does happen every now and again.
And some people say yeah I believe that's true I believe that the world's going to end and then historically
as that date comes and goes and the world end it.
What has happened to that person's beliefs beliefs have just vanished into thin air never to be discussed
or talked about again one of seeing here is that not all beliefs are actually beliefs.
Some people think that the things that they believe are are beliefs but they're not.
They're just nice ideas or opinions or feelings and bear in mind.
Some people will claim to believe certain things not because they genuinely do but just because they
want to be accepted and part of a wider group or a community.
No I could go a little bit controversial here on you.
Could go deeper and talk about religion or no.
I come from more of a military background whereas my wife Karen comes from a Church of Scotland quite
a rigid Church of Scotland on bringing and about ground so I actually spent some time studying religion
and Christianity and looking into this whole idea of God for there for the primary reason of understanding
my wife's beliefs because I wanted to understand her right.
No I had never considered the whole got the whole God thing but she committed our whole life to this
whole God thing and folks should go to church every week and she even worked in a church when the first
originallly matter.
And I guess if I wanted to understand ha it was important that I came to understand her beliefs not
in view of conflicting against or are putting up a good debate because is something many people do.
Let's debate it.
I have my beliefs and you have your beliefs let's debate and see who wins.
You know if two people are in the context of a relationship want to understand each other then it's
actually it's working hard to understand why two people have come to believe what it is they believe
because no one says so in life to believe a pack of lies.
But yet some people do want to believe a pack of lies for example.
For most of my teens and 20s I believed that I was worthless I was useless.
I'd spent most of my teens in my 20s doing my best to prove myself to people.
And this expressed self through my commitment to join the British army because I believed I was fundamentally
useless and worthless.
I really wanted to do something significant with my life and I saw joining the Army as a means by which
to do something significant though many people would say that you know I believe that joining the army
is a good thing to do is serving queen and country.
I believe that's right.
And back then I would have said that to Jason or to the thetan but my reasons.
The truth of why I joined the Army was just to be part of something that I believed to be significant
because if I was to join this significant group of people who were doing something significant then
the significance with hopefully rubs off on me.
So I joined the army through me.
My motives were completely selfish the way it preserved and queening country were going to be totally
honest here.
I don't care about the queen I don't care about the country and most people don't all see the do but
they actually generally don't because because who are this who is the one person at the core and centre
of our universe as right as us.
No.
We have some opinions or some feelings or some thoughts some beliefs about this.
If you think about it this is true for all of us.
It's true for me it's true for you whether we choose to accept this truth or not.
We're all innately selfish All right.
This is what we're dealing with.
Their beliefs are feelings the opinions and thoughts of people will throw you away are generally always
just going to be to disguise their core fundamental truth satoru IT'S of their motives and why they
are doing the things that they're doing in life.
If I was to go back to my wife Karen you know when I met her in church I knew instantly when I met her
in church I was going through this funny stage of life at the time.
It was actually 12 months after the death of my previous girlfriend.
We'll share the story with you later on in the course.
No no I was lost.
I was heart I was heartbroken I was looking for answers and I guess I wanted to to to check out this
this whole church God thing to understand for myself whether there was anything Jeanette no.
Whilst I didn't find any value in the religious conformity.
I did find something of immense value in the god concept.
No no I could share it with you.
My God.
But that's irrelevant in this course because my beliefs are mine.
Your beliefs are yours.
But what they come to understand.
It was my wife burn through the whole experience.
And what I did good it quickly recognised was that although she claimed to believe in this and this
and this God idea what she was more motivated and driven by was just being part of the community because
they all claimed to believe the same thing.
Which meant that she had something in common with this larger group of people which giver on one level
with this false sense of security.
Saw a bit of an old strike video.
This is just an introduction to the course but all I really want to leave you with here is just this
idea that that beliefs nine times out of 10 cause people more confusion in life than that than what
they're actually worth because just because we believe some things to be true doesn't mean that they
are.
There are some people right now who are going to develop some beliefs about me or I.
But here's the thing when it comes to living our life.
I'm the expert on my life because I'm not one person has walked a whole life time in my shoes therefore
I know what it means to be me.
And in the same way for you.
You're the expert of your life.
You're the only person in the world who's walked a lifetime in your shoes and you know what it means
to be you.
And for those that you go into court they are the experts of their lives.
They have walked a lifetime in their shoes and them and them alone know what it is to be them.
What I have come to recognize over the years is when it comes to life coaching and counselling and therapy
and all sorts of helping professions.
Some people like to set themselves up as gurus as if they're the ones who have all the answers to life.
But here's a thing you can not expect of anyone else's life other than your own.
Unless you understand yourself from the inside out.
What's true for you and the context of why you do the things that you do.
Your motives.
And this is a huge topic that we're going to be looking up in the next section.
And this is sorely for you.
By the way if you have better understanding yourself before start looking to understand other people.
Once you find once you understand yourself from the inside is then and only then are you going to be
able to see clear enough to me.
Are and clear decisions interpretations assessments valuations where other people are.
But just to be clear you're never going to be the expert of anyone else's life other than your own so
unless you are able to identify clearly and separate these five phenomenon beliefs from thoughts from
opinions feelings and truth then then your clear judgments are always going to be clouded.
I spent a few years studying the various philosophical thinkers and one of my favourites was a guy called
Plato Plato who was around the same time as Socrates skar to use.
There are thereabouts.
Within the same millennium anyway and give or take a few years and please tell me this fastlane suggestion
about opinions.
If you want to check out some opinions and check out the opinions under reviews in this course Gordon
check out rotten tomatoes and read some of the some reviews of some thought critics have made of collates
movies you can find that no two opinions are alike or I think.
Loss last year when the film the movie suicide squad came out of DC Comics but I personally loved Dex
I love comic book hero movies that I saw a thing that I shared with them you were going to say but Rotten
Tomatoes give it I think was a 19 percent score and it said it was a really bad movie.
I thought it was great when I've seen his heroes all experience.
Life is subjective.
We all have different preferences and where one person's opinions going to be brilliant someone else's
opinion is going to be not brilliant and are pinions are always going to be determined by the feelings
that we have.
There are always going to be stemming from the thoughts that we think and the beliefs are fundamentally
underpinning all of this.
So why do tell me all this this is quite a long winded video.
We're all going I hear you ask well thanks for asking.
Please allow me to explain what I'm seeing here is that the strongest foundation that we can build and
so alive upon is not beliefs or thoughts or feelings or opinions.
These things will change over time.
They are inconsistent.
But the truth the truth is a constant.
For example if I was to share with you who I am in a last video I asked you who you are.
I know who I am or going to park this section or just who I am but who you are to this hour is the truth
of who we are.
It gives us a firm foundation to build and build the rest of our life upon.
When people are insecure in their core identity the truth of who they are never going to be clear on
why they do the things that they do what the way they should be doing with their life and what they
shouldnt be doing with their life.
Theyre going to end up living the life blown around like a leaf in the wind bouncing off the beliefs
or if they have the beliefs other people have the thoughts that pop into their minds.
Feelings that come and go and the fleeting opinions based upon their subjective world views.
Truth.
Are you as a potential life coach to us at all times in all situations.
Commerce student of truth because people are going to come to you for life coaching to help them overcome
and solve their problems.
And here's the thing you're not ever going to be there do you or they are experts.
But you can be interested in understanding them.
If you become an expert in able to discern and navigate your way through a complex web of beliefs feelings
opinions and truths.
You can't establish what is true.
The truth about what people believe the truth about what people want and the truth about why people
do the things that they do.
Because if you become able unwilling to pursue people's truth then you will grow to better understand
people you grow to better.
When people say trust when their hearts are once you have won people's hearts they will freely give
you their minds.
Once people have freely given your minds they are going to become far more open to suggestion.
Teaching empathy and coaching but only once and only when you have managed to break through all of this
are relevant stuff.
No witnesses are relevant.
It's not irrelevant for most people because for most people this stuff here is a foundation that they
build their lifes on.
So understanding this means that you know know what of this.
You want to be working towards establishing a foundation of trust because it's the truth that sets people
free in life free from what.
CAIN I hear you ask a great question and here's the answer.
Free from the limiting beliefs that have held them back from a year free from that inconsistent thoughts
that pop in and out of their minds free from their feelings that one day lift them up on the next day
tear them down and free from the subjective and irrelevant opinions are based nothing Espy nothing more
than subjective preference.
The truth is the strongest foundation that we can build in the context of our likes and truth is a strong
foundation that we can empower other people to build in the context of.
There is this very truth that we are going to look to establish throughout the rest of this section.
If you're intrigued.
I look forward to seeing you in the next venue.